I know a lot of people who hate being alone. People who hate spending time by themselves, people who’d rather spend every waking moment with another person; people for who the thought of spending eight hours in a room staring at a computer makes them horrified and/or have an anxiety attack. If you are a writer, you simply cannot be this kind of person. You have to be the kind of person who loves being alone. You could spend hours being alone, not talking to anyone, just thinking your thoughts and doing what you do. You should be someone who is also okay with intentionally not being social or going to social events because you need to be alone to write. If you have FOMO this may be difficult. Even if you don’t have FOMO this may be difficult. But you have to carve out time you spend with just yourself, writing. This is essential. Trust me, there are a lot of times when I would have loved to go get drunk and ride my bike through Venice Beach and shout at people, but I’ve stayed home to write instead. And to be honest, I love being by myself. Sometimes I get nervous that I like it a little too much, but this tendency to be into hanging out with me, myself, and I has turned out to be a huge help as I’ve embarked on a writing career.
From “Lists of Stuff: Some Things People Don’t Always Tell You About Writing” aka this week’s installment of my column over at HelloGiggles. I wrote about something very close to my heart — writing. I’ve been an unemployed writer for almost six months now which means I have spent a LOT of time by myself writing and I’ve learned all sorts of invaluable things that I wanted to share — things that I never really thought about before I had this time to write. And while I’ve obviously already found like seven typos since re-reading this post and it’s driving me nuts (and also how awkward in a post about writing of all things), I hope that all other writers and aspiring writers check this out!